Why Women Cheat

I have done some light researched and decided to tackle the subject of why women cheat! We all know me are dogs as I explained in one of my earlier post but what makes you woman cheat and why are they so dam good at it! lol  Here are a couple reasons why...

1. Change has Come

"If it is graduating from an educational institution, turning a certain age, losing a parent or advancing the relationship status to another level, women become introspective," which is a fancy way to say they are looking deeply into their own thoughts and feelings. We already know that women are the pioneers of over thinking things so going through a life transition makes this attribute more frequently abundant. Even if it is something she wants, such as just getting engaged or graduating, the transition can stir up an array of emotions about where her life is going. The discomfort of change can trigger an impulsive desire to find someone to take her focus off the change and be a diversion for what she is going through whether it be positive or negative. Yeah know women are strange creatures lol 

2. Under Appreciated 

Even as men we have all been here where we don't feel appreciated in the way we want. For women it may be getting a promotion on the job, organizing a fundraiser, or making a holiday dinner for a party of 20, us men often make the misstep and fall victim to downplaying our woman's achievements no matter how tiny or big. Women seek an emotional connection that their partner notices them, is proud of their achievements, and appreciates what they do, so when they aren’t getting this at home the residual effects lead to feelings of frustration, dissatisfaction, depression, and restlessness. That's why I always preach the motto to the fellas that is doesn't cost to pay attention.

Now I don't have to be a rocket scientist or love guru to tell you that when the appreciate isn't felt at home that  that's when they could go looking for it elsewhere. When you are living in the day to day with someone, it is challenging to step outside a situation and notice the things that do matter to someone. As this wears down over time, so as soon as the woman encounters someone who ignites the spark they are lacking at home, they equate it to an emotional connection and seek companionship with someone else. "Ya man don't send ya flowers" or "if I was your man I would appreciate your effort" these are sample lines men shoot at woman in relationships and if your not doing the same, then it could turn against you and she will slide with someone else! 

3. Feeling The Relationship Ending 

When a woman feels that uneasy sense that a relationship is on the outs, by either her doing or his, she will often look to fill the void externally to soften the blow, there are no reasons for a woman's infidelity but If she is the one considering the breakup, she may be using this tactic as a challenge to herself both testing the waters, and then gauge if she can go through with it. One thing about her, she is not going to leave the nest cold turkey, I believe a woman always have at least two potential prospects on deck be for she 100 percent leaves the relationship. 

4. Smiles turning to Frowns

But it's too hard to pull the plug because of the history. She don’t laugh, she don’t love. Laughter is one of the key elements in a relationship that often gets overlooked. When stresses of day to day life become the dominant factor in a relationship, women feel unhappy. When they come across a coworker, or friend that they have a good time with, it suddenly brings to light what is missing in their own relationship and becomes tempting to act upon. Hence the term I don't want my women sniggling and giggling with nobody!! lol

5. Sex Life Joking 

Men aren't the only ones who need to spice things up and "turn up" in the bedroom! Women need to feel desired and wanted! You don't have to always have her climbing the walls, u should...but If she is not getting any, enough, or nothing to talk about, women start to feel a sexual void. Ohhh shit you don't want that!! With the popularity of books such as Fifty Shades of Grey, television shows, or listening to friends talk about their fun single trysts, women have that moment when they compare their love life at home to what the rest of the world seems to be experiencing. And that's when she may start to wonder what she's missing. RED LIGHT FELLAS

Though it is easy to pinpoint the flaws in one's sex life, it is often hard to make the changes needed to correct them. This creates a temptation in women to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere with someone they don’t have the "baggage" with and can be more loose as they say! 

*Or the most common answer can be She Ain't Shit! Because we know some people cheat because they can get away with it or they are just unfaithful people lol
Idk why women cheat because clearly Im not a woman but I hope my fellas pay attention and understand woman are the greatest cheaters of our time and just like a man you can stop a person for doing whatever it is the "want" to do.  SO good luck out there!!

Chivilary Dead?!! Who Killed It?

 

  There has been an crime in society! Somebody has attempted to kill chivalry. What is chivalry you ask? Well chivalry is the acts of a gentleman, the old fashioned rubric within relationships that made a women feel special. Chivalry can also be linked to the missing idea of romance, which is another open case for another blog but you can get my drift. Many people have multiple reasons to believe why they think chivalry is dead in society. I have decided to attempt an explanation of this mystery. In my opinion, I think we all share a responsibility in chivalry being on its death bed. I would probably break it down into three suspects...Men..Women..and Society which would consist of them both, while also being the accuser! Women claim you cant find the perfect gentlemen which are lies and rumors. Men claim you cant find a women that appreciates a gentleman which are also lies and rumors. While Society believes and teaches us that "it really doesn't matter, you do or you don't"! However you look at it, we cannot allow chivalry to die, so lets break it down.

Prime Suspect: Men

Prosecution's Case: Men have downgraded the art of chivalry through lack of respect of women. The uses of word b*tch and hoe are common practices and a overall lazy mentality. It seems to be more cool to have multiple women then dedicate time and effort to please one. Men have been seen letting old ladies cross the street, not giving up there seat to a woman on the bus/train, and not providing for their household. The most dangerous reason is the influx of dead beat dads. Think about it, if there is not a man in the house to teach you how to be a gentleman, then how you expect the young men coming up to know chivalry. The example is set by the elders but somehow within the generation gabs the art was lost.

In Defence: Its hard to find women that appreciate a true gentleman. Outside paying for an additional dinner men agree that chivalry doesn't change the results when dating a women. I surveyed 50 men and over 65% contend that being a perfect gentleman or practicing chivalry is overrated today. Many agree that they would rather be with a woman that appreciates chivalry but these days there are far but few, I tend to disagree but hey don't shot the messenger.      

 Persons of Interest: Women

Prosecution's Case: Woman have over the years become so independent (to their credit) that they have just pushed the envelope to even the odds, so much that the thought of being equals has hurt chivalry in relationships. Woman are in higher paying positions, single parents running house holds, and have grown to be satisfied with doing things on their own. Many men believe that some women look at a man as weak, soft  or lame for being a gentleman. Good girls like bad boys so what do the good boys get...the bad girls that don't appreciate a courageous effort at chivalry. The presentation of a woman has also changed. You want evidence to go on Instagram or Face book..look at pictures and read statuses and the proof is in the pudding lol. Therefor without knowing it, women by being so proactive and independent are killing chivalry.

In Defense: Women want to be treated like a queen and all have a mushy heart when it comes to romance and the perfect gentleman. Its just not enough men who want to be a gentleman at all times. He doesn't open my car door because most of the time she is driving or he doesn't pull my chair out to sit down because we usually sit in a booth. You can call them excuses or you can call them reasons but woman have just got comfortable with just having a good man that they have bent the rules on chivalry. When surveying 50 women I found that a 75% have never had a car door opened for them. In fact all 50 women agreed that being a gentleman will score you cool points but would rather see a faithful man than a knight in shinning armor lol. A valid point and brings up the question if you have experienced it how would you know it exist? Just like the men in this case if you were not taught it how do you know how to express it?

Internal Mole : Society/Media

 Prosecution's Case Society has played a major role in this crime from media outlets, music, movies and role models. The increase of hip hop exposure and music videos have painted a different picture of what n how men n women should be. Look at the everyday music video, you have women half naked, men with outrageous amounts of money, fancy cars, drugs and alcohol. Listen to the lyrics, you hear sex, bitches, hoes, pimping, etc get thrown around like the norm. Sadly this is excepted in society and seen through media outlets and reality TV shows. The woman verses men battle with go back and forth through society, so by society being the mediator it can sway the tide in either direction.

In Defense: Society is built on the principles of men and women!

My Opinion: Chivalry is not dead. I believe that it starts with your principals you were raised on. My mom taught me a lot of things that my absent father couldn't about how to treat a lady.. Honestly I think both sides have valid points. Its all our responsibility to treat everyone with respect, which is what I think chivalry is as a whole. I want to treat my future wife like a princess and be happily ever after but I also believe you cant be too sweet or you will get run over so there has to be a balance. I think chivalry does start and end with a man because many women don't know how to accept a gentleman these days nor be a lady themselves. As a man you should be 5 Things

1. Truth - Speak the truth and seek the truth before making judgments
2. Honor- Keep your word, know yourself
3. Protector- have no fear and stand in the way of harm to those you love, defend the helpless.
4. Loyalty -to choose for yourself the Worthy One or Ones,whether they be your God, your loved ones, your country, a two way street.
5. Courtesy- to be polite, mannered and respect to all no matter if you know then or not, with the way you dress, talk, and behave in public and behind closed doors.

Examples toward a Women would be (basic)

• When a man pulls out a chair or offers his chair for a woman
• When a man walks a woman to her door
• Opening up a car door or building entrance door for a women
• Walk on the outside of the sidewalk and offer her the use of ones coat 
• Paying for dinner

Chivalry does not just fall on the man as woman need to play their part to make the man feel like the man and want to do the same for you in return. Many women don't do these simple things which is like a trade off for men not to be gentleman. At the end of the day it works both ways and coexist. 

Examples of how to make a Man feel like the man

• Let him order for you
• Makes his plate
• Put him in charge of Directions
• Thank him

To sum it all up, we both men and women must work together to make our relationships work, through communication and respect. Thanks 

Not on Your Time

Not on your time

Dam baby girl your heart was once mine
Feel like you owe me rent the way you stay on mind
The love we shared together, wen separate I couldnt find
Im tired of them games Im done with the lies..

  Not on your time

Okay I understand but how much time you need
Im not gone wait forever baby trust n believe
That the bullshit I pulled last time will no longer be
Ive changed Im a better man Wat u dont love me?

 Not on your time

So wat you gotta another lover who when and where
Hell I aint jealous or nothing shoot I dont even care
I deserve at 8th chance you just not being fair
Cn you with somebody else is something I cant bare

  Not on your time

Well fuck ya I dont need you I got plenty of dimes
They beating down my door look like a First Friday line
So you dont want me back think Im gone be cryn
I aint gone beg ya bih...FINE

  Not on Your Time

Baby Im so sorry y u not answering my calls
I didnt mean to trip I was on that alcohol
Id rather be your friend then you not speak to me at all
Please except my apology this is something two grown ups can resolve

  Not on your time

I respect ya mind and Im going to give you your space
Its not on my time so yours I shouldnt waist
My future actions will do the talking 2 put a smile on your face
So wen your ready I will be here to take your breath away
You can fall in love twice its the chance Im ready to take
Im not a perfect man mistakes Im going to make
but I love you..so until its my time again I will wait.

                           --Prennuss Kutta